In reality, there is nothing special about January 1st. Sure, it’s a new calendar year, but it’s really no different than the day before. To be honest, I feel the concept of new year’s resolutions is a little silly. If something is so important to someone, why wait until January 1st to start doing it?! Why not start whenever you first realize you should be doing it?!
But, I DO often make resolutions in a new year. Not because that’s the only time I can convince myself to do something, but because I like to take the opportunity to think about my life and what I may want to change about it. The new year is a good reminder to try to focus on something that I wouldn’t otherwise have thought about.
Sometimes my resolution has something to do with my health or fitness. Sometimes it’s about my spiritual life. Sometimes it is something to do with my family. This year, my resolution is to spend more time in prayer. I want to work prayer into my life more…in the morning, before bed, with my family, when things are going well, and when they’re going badly. I want it to be more of a REGULAR part of my life.
If you’ve been following this blog and feel there are some areas you could use some focus on concerning your role as a husband, maybe January 1st is a good time to make a resolution! To get you started, here are some possible ideas…
- I resolve to do more around the house to help out: Maybe add one more chore to your regular responsibility list that your wife has done in the past. Or maybe just identify a few things that you normally don’t help with and try to look for chances to intentionally take care of them.
- I resolve to feed into my wife’s main love language: Go all out and constantly try to love her in that area. If you don’t know about love languages, see my earlier post about it. If you’re not showing her love in this, it would be a great area for you to focus on.
- I resolve to be more selfless: The biggest enemy to a strong marriage is selfishness. Where do you eat? What do you watch on tv? What music do you listen to in the car? What color couch do you buy? Being married means you work together on decisions like these (and millions of others). A leader who always gets what he wants could be seen as a dictator. A GOOD leader is one who thinks more of others than himself. For the new year, try to focus on being more selfless.
- I resolve to be a better spiritual leader: What is the spiritual health of your family like? How much of it’s health is due to YOUR influence? Think about some ways you can help your family grow. Family prayer time, family devotional time, or leading by example in personal study and prayer…these are all possible things to focus on.
Remember, January 1st is a new day and is the perfect chance to think about something you may want to do differently. Whatever it is, cover it with prayer and ask God to help you sustain change to allow your to bless your wife and others.