I need to be an amazing husband. Seriously…I do. I only get one chance to do it right and so much relies on it. Of course I’m referring to the importance of treating my wife right, leading her in a Godly way, and making her feel loved and supported for who she is. And also for encouraging her when she needs it and challenging her to be the person God is leading her to be. But, there is another HUGE reason why my actions are so important. It’s because future generations are relying on what I do!
Eli, my 8 year old son, sees everything I do. Every day I see more and more ways that he is JUST like me. The way I pronounce grapes, grAH-pehys. The way I make up silly songs about random things. The way I wake up early in the morning excited to “live life!” He sees all this and imitates what I do. His opinion about Julia is the same as well. When I say, “Eli, did you know your mommy is the greatest mommy in the whole world?!?”, he doesn’t miss a beat and responds with, “YEAH…she is THE BEST!!” The things I think are cool…he always thinks are cool too. When we vote for “family member of the day”, Julia ALWAYS wins because we stack the votes. Of course this does make board games more difficult. It’s tough to win Sorry when you are ALWAYS the one who gets “sorry’d”. But, I love it! The way I treat Julia is emulated step-for-step by him.
I got one of the best compliments I’ve ever had the other day. One of my friends has a daughter Eli’s age and they’re great friends. We like to joke about, “what if they get married some day, wouldn’t that be so cool?” And of course, no guys want to think about their little girl getting married. No boy is going to be good enough for them…right?? The comment he made surprised me. He said, “if Eli treats her the way that Michael treats Julia, then I’d be good with it.” I teared up a little at that. Not only did I appreciate the compliment, but it was a sobering reminder to me of the weight that my role as a husband and father has. How I love Julia will not just impact her, but also whoever Eli marries many years from now.
And it’s not just a son that will see and learn from you. Daughters will learn what a man should be like. How you are will affect what they look for in a guy when they’re old enough to date. And your friends will learn from the example you set too. And all of these people will have the ability to affect the next generation in THEIR lives. So, the impact have grows exponentially…for good or for bad.
My challenge to you:
Take your role as a husband seriously. Not only is it important in caring for your wife, but other eyes are watching. Your sons will emulate you. Your daughters will learn what a man should be like. Your friends will be subtly influenced as well. Don’t be a lazy or selfish husband and let that be passed along to the next generation!