So, you want to have a closer relationship with your wife huh? Here’s something that can help. Find something you can share an interest in. If you each always pursue what YOU want to do, you’re missing out on a great opportunity to share life together. Having an activity, sport, TV show, or hobby that you’re both interested in is a GREAT way to spend more time together and connect better.
It’s tough for me to write about this subject because, to be honest, I have a lot of room for improvement in it. I did read Twilight (ok) and The Host (pretty good), but on the whole I have a hard time choosing to read the types of books she’s interested in reading. We have a few TV shows that we both enjoy (Amazing Race, Modern Family, Survivor), but on the whole my TV preferences are MUCH different than hers. Same with movies…I like explosions and adventure. National Treasure is probably the archetype for my ideal movie…whereas hers is Lars and the Real Girl.
I KNOW that I should suck it up and watch So You Think You Can Dance, or Parenthood, or Celebrity Game Night, but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I know that I should read more books that she reads as a way to understand and connect with her more. I know that I should sit through watching The Tree of Life as a way to understand more about what she loves, but I just haven’t.
How great would it be if I put aside what I wanted to do and decided to pursue an interest in something she was interested in. Or if we both decided to get into a new hobby together (dancing, painting, etc).
My advice to you:
Try out some of the things your wife is into. Even if it is not something you’re interested in, try it out as a way to connect with her more. And talk with her about finding a new activity that you both could get into and try it together. Even if you don’t fall in love with the new activity, at least you’re experiencing it together…which can be fun.