I am very blessed in this subject though. Julia is an amazing mom! Seriously…she is. And it really makes my job easy! She thinks of cool ways to teach things all the time that I would never think about.
So, one area that I struggle in is being passive as a parent. I see the awesome things that Julia does and, to be honest, it’s easy to get lazy. If Eli does that needs correcting, I know Julia is going to have a great way to address it and teach him something from it. If he is upset about something from school, Julia is going to be there with some great comforting and will draw him out to get to the root of the issue. So sometimes I get caught in this trap feeling like I don’t NEED to do anything.
I realize this is frustrating for her though. No one wants to have to parent on their own. It’s exhausting! But, when I sit back and leave it to Julia to address all these things that come up, I’m forcing her to do all the work. So, I have to make a conscious effort to be active at this.
When Eli speaks back to Julia, I try to step in and address it before she has a chance to. When he interrupts someone when they’re talking, I try to talk to him about it. When he is wandering around when he’s supposed to be getting ready for bed, I try to get him focused back on task. Julia does all these things (and MUCH more). But, I want him to hear from ME that it’s not ok. I want BOTH of us to be teaching him these things. I feel when parents are unified in the message they are teaching, it makes the message so much clearer and will be more effective.
So guys, if we want to show our wives that we love them, get on board with parenting. This is very much a work in progress on my part. Don’t let her shoulder the burden alone. Talk with her about strategies of how to address things. Talk about whatever phase your kids seem to be going through. And make sure you’re engaging your child when the need arises. I guarantee you she will appreciate it.