Most weekdays I see my wife briefly in the morning and then not again until the afternoon. Since we spend most of the day away from each other, it only leaves a few hours for us to be together in the evening. This is especially true when either of us has something else going on at night. It is not unusual for us to go several days where we work during the day and alternate different activities at night…and as a result barely see each other or get to talk. I don’t know if any of you ever get into that place, but I hate it! By the time we finally get to spend some time together, we don’t feel very connected.
I’ve found a good way to help with this. Don’t let the day go by without touching base with your wife. It could be a quick call during lunch just to see how the day is going or to let her know you were thinking about her. Or, it could be as simple as an email or a text message. Neither of these take much time, but can go a long ways in staying connected.
This is even more important if you’re ever out of town for a while. That can be a tough time, especially for the one who is at home. Simple ways of staying in touch help her to know she is important. And it takes very little effort on your part…other than simply remembering to do it. Which, by definition, shows you were thinking of her!
I don’t always do a good job of this. Many days I’m caught up in work and don’t have a chance to stop and think about my wife…much less remember to take the time to contact her. I notice it when this happens…in the evenings, we aren’t as connected.
My challenge to you:
If you and your wife are apart for any length of time (work day, out of town, etc), make sure to take the time to say hey. Let her know that you love her and were thinking of her.