As a Christian husband, I feel there is one responsibility that stands out as more important than all the others. Yes, it is important to make sure your family is taken care of financially, and that they feel safe and secure, and that they feel loved and appreciated, but I feel the most important calling of a man is to lead his family spiritually.
I’m going to go out on a limb here. Guys, if your family is not grounded in the Word, if they are not solid in their understanding of who God is, what Jesus did for us, and how we should live our lives in praise of Him and in serving and loving others, then it is YOUR fault. Yes, you heard me right. YOU need to take responsibility for it.
Now, please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. This is not a comment on gender roles and what is appropriate for men and women to do. I believe God has given both men and women insight and the ability to understand the Word. I believe women can learn and teach the Word just as well as men can, and to stifle that would be to limit the potential for spreading knowledge and wisdom to others as well as ourselves. Julia is blessed with an incredible understanding of God and desire to always be learning. Not only that, but she is an amazing teacher. When Eli does something silly that I’m about to laugh off and move on from, she will use it as an opportunity to make a life lesson from it. Like illustrating what the grace of God is like while doing the dishes. Or to talk about the importance of loving others when hearing news about needs in another country. She also is always teaching and challenging me, which I appreciate. This is one of many reasons why I am SO thankful to be married to her.
With that being clarified, I think all men need to take responsibility for making sure their family receives spiritual direction and growth. That doesn’t mean they should PREVENT their wife or other people from contributing, but that they shouldn’t DEPEND on them to do so.
I have to be honest…this is not one of my biggest strengths as a husband. I have the best intentions, but often fall short of what I want to do. Thankfully, by the grace of God, I am blessed with an amazing wife that thrives spiritually even without much help from me, and am blessed in how she helps teach our son. This is an ongoing growth area for me.
My challenge to you:
What are YOU doing to help advance the spiritual life of the members of your family? Are you doing nothing hoping that your wife will take over the job? Are you expecting your church to do the job for you? Don’t sit back and outsource the most important job you have to other people. STEP UP and MAKE SURE your family is on the right track.
…stay tuned for an upcoming post on ways to make this happen