Guys, do not hide this from your wife!

Shared-CalendarSince Julia and I got married, there is one thing that stands out as one of the most frequent sources of stress and initiator of arguments in our relationship.  What is the culprit…SCHEDULING.  Oh man, if I could go back…with all the knowledge I have now…things would be so much easier.  At first, I was just ignorant.  I would plan things whenever I wanted (camping trips, friends for dinner, rock climbing) and not think to ask Julia.   Or I would just forget to tell her until right before it happened with an, “oh…by the way…”.  See earlier post for an example of how well this went for me.  Eventually I clued in to the idea that, now that I was married, my scheduling decisions weren’t my own anymore, and I needed to make sure we were both ok with it before committing to something.

Things got better from there, but I still had a problem…I KNEW what I had on my calendar, but whenever I wanted to plan something, I never knew what Julia had on hers.  Yes, we could talk and compare what’s coming up, but it’s easy to forget things.  And when I was trying to plan something, I always had that undermining feeling that there was something I was just forgetting about.

That’s when iCloud came in to save the day!  I knew it was possible to share our calendars from our computers, but had never taken the time to figure it out.  After I made the switch to Mac, I set about to figure it out.  It was easy to set up and now that it’s done, I can see what Julia and I BOTH have on our calendars from my laptop, tablet or phone!  (yes…I love technology)  Let me tell you…it is SOOOO nice!  We generally keep a pretty full schedule, but I can tell at any time what is coming up, which makes it so much easier to plan things and know what’s going on.

My challenge to you:

If you haven’t setup to share calendars with your wife, DO IT!  It is easy to do and can save you a lot of stress and needless arguments.  I can be done whether you’re on Mac, PC, iPhone, Android, Gmail, etc.  All setups are different and some can be a little tricky though.  Here are some links to help if you need it.  If you have a different computer setup, just google what you’re looking for and you should be able to find something to help.

– iCloud: Share a calendar with others

– Share your Google calendar

– Sharing an Outlook calendar with other people 

– Syncing iPhones with Android phones