As I’ve been blogging each week, I try to keep in mind WHY all of this matters. Sure, being a good husband is noble and a good goal, but is it really that important? YES, and here are 4 reasons why.
Your wife has needs. A need to be loved, appreciated, and cherished. She needs to feel secure. She needs to know who you are and for you to have an emotional connection. She needs to be fulfilled sexually, and she needs someone to be there for her and listen to her. Most of these needs can ONLY be met by YOU! If you’re too busy with work, friends, sports, or tv, then you will not have time to invest in her. If you don’t help fulfill these needs as her husband, you are undermining her ability to reach her full potential as a woman, a mother, and as a child of God. And if you don’t step up in your role…there is a good possibility that another man may come in to take your spot.
– Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”
– Colossians 3:9 – “Husbands love your wives, and do not be harsh with them”
– Ephesians 5:28 – “…husbands should love their wives as they love their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself.”
The Bible is very clear about how you should treat your wife. Love her. Put her desires above yours. Don’t be harsh with her. Be a leader, but not in a demanding way…in a way that is worthy of respect. If God calls us to this role, then we should do whatever we can to fulfill it.
Good or bad, our kids will learn from the example we set. Sure, everyone is different, and it is possible for good people to come from a bad childhood and vice versa, but on the whole, MOST kids will develop a lot of the traits and habits their parents model. You have the opportunity to not just try to be the best husband YOU can be, but to also help raise your kids to do the same when they grow up. I laugh at all the silly and crazy traits I see in Eli that I know he gets from me. I love it, but it’s a sobering reminder that I need to be aware of everything I do and say.
Yes, your kids will learn from the example you set, and so will other men and women. The more you try to make positive changes in your life, the more others will see and learn from the actions you take too.